Patience And More Patience

Hi everyone….from Christian Help For Addiction Online

Some times, things don’t seem to move as quickly as we like….Looking for a job, finding a better place to live, meeting new friends or acquaintances seem to take more time than we had initially planned for.

The same holds true for those in recovery.  Some of us may believe that stopping for a week or so might mean that we are over our struggles.  Then when we relapse, we get frustrated and lose all hope of ever getting better. Relapse is part of recovery, and coming to expect these set-backs is part of the whole recovery process.  Let’s face it, there are many of us who have been struggling with these “habits” for years, and as the old saying goes, some old habits are “hard” to break.

Patience is required when we are looking to make serious life changes. Change itself can be a challenge, especially when we are use to a living a style of behavior for so long.  I know you have heard this saying so many times, and I hate to beat it into the ground, but taking a day at a time is the best strategy you could use.  Each day straight and sober is a “victory” that should be celebrated.  Give thanks to God for that day, and ask him to stand by you for the next day and the next.

It might take quite some time before you finally get your break through, but with Christ by your side, you will not be doing it alone.

As Phillipians 4:13 reminds us: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”

Stay well and God Bless.

 

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Never Say Never

Hi everyone, from Christian Help For Addiction Online.  You know, sometimes things seem to get so difficult, that we just fall into despair. Negative thoughts travel through our minds telling us such things as “what’s the sense”, and “things will never change”.  Be careful of the thought “never”.

In Jesus’s time, things were difficult as well.  Jesus even informed his followers that there will be difficult times on this earth. When Jesus himself was stressed, he would seek time alone, away from all the drama, and pray. Prayer was the main support system for Jesus, and it should be ours as well.

Don’t fall into despair and feel that things will never get better for you or your loved one. The struggles in this life often go in cycles, and working through the difficult times by keeping our faith and turning our burdens over to the Lord, have seen many struggling with an addiction turn their lives around. 

Join a local AA or NA group. Get yourself a sponsor who knows God, and can point your in the right direction. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, as there are people standing by just praying that God will send them someone to help. They won’t look at you as a burden, but as a fellow human being who is having a difficult time at the moment getting his or her life back in balance.

Never say Never. With God all things are possible.  Stay well and God Bless you and your family.

Here’s a great devotional from Intouch.org

My peace I give to you” (John 14:27). Jesus spoke these amazing words just hours before His crucifixion. His peace isn’t dependent upon external circumstances, but rather, it transcends them. Although He gives His peace to every believer as a gift, our experience of it is related to our faith in the following truths:

• God is in control of everything. Without this assurance, the world is a scary place.

 

• He loves me and will see me through every circumstance, no matter how difficult or painful it may be.

 

• To have Christ’s peace, I must surrender my life to Him. When I hold onto my ways and plans, I’ll experience turmoil.

 

• I have a limited perspective and understanding of my circumstances and God’s purposes for allowing them. His goals for me are greater than my immediate comfort.

 

• The Lord promises to work all things out for my good. He is continually working to transform my character into Christ’s image.

 

• I must live in sync with God, walking in the Spirit and promptly confessing and repenting of sin.

 

• Scripture is my foundation for peace. It increases my trust in the Lord’s goodness, assures me that He keeps His promises, and reminds me of His sovereignty over every situation.

Sadly, many Christians live their whole lives without consistently experiencing this incomprehensible peace. Perhaps faith and submission are the most challenging issues. But only as we surrender control of our lives to Christ and trust in His plans for us will we discover tranquil rest for our souls.

 

 

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God is our Anchor

Hi again everyone…from Christian Help For Addiction Online…we pray that your troubles are becoming fewer…

The storms of life (Finances, Relationships, Health, Children, Work) can come at us at any time…trying to predict and or worry about the future is senseless, as the anxiety that worry creates, only fuels maladaptive behavior. Everyone worries, and everyone becomes anxious at some point in their lives….the key is how do we address and cope with this “anticipatory worry” as it is called…in a healthy way.

When anxiety hits…here is what I recommend to group members…

—Get a check-up:    Believe it or not, there are some physical conditions (Thyroid issues etc) that can create anxiety. Having a complete physical with corresponding blood work, can help in alleviating any physical issues that might be causing you anxiety.

—In-take:  What are you consuming?  Or better yet, what aren’t you consuming?  Having a healthy diet, and limiting or removing such things as “caffeinated” drinks can go a long way in alleviating anxiety.  Perhaps you are not getting enough vitamins and nutrients?  These are issues that can be discussed with your physician.

—Exercise:  If you physician gives you the “ok” then get out there and start walking or jogging.  This is one of the top ways to eliminate anxiety.  There are many anxious people who have and/or produce excess amounts of norepinephrine. This adrenaline can wreak havoc on the body…but fortunately, physical exercise can help in “burning it up”, and subsequently eliminating some of the side effects of excess amounts, namely, anxiety.

—Meditate:  Meditation can be a wonderful sedative for the anxious mind. Meditation can be accomplished in many different ways.  I suggest you Google “Ways to meditate” and get some ideas. Pick what’s right for you and get started.

—Prayer:  Oh yes, and last but not least, then there is God. Support systems (friends, relatives, therapists) come and go. But if you are looking for 24/7 help to get through the day…there is no better resource than God.  Christ told his followers that he came so “they might have life and have it more abundantly” …and having a life full of worry and anxiety was not part of the plan for you.  While we live out this “human experience’ there will be difficult times.  But when you come to the realization that you were created by an all knowing and all loving God, who wants to be part of your life, then “this life” takes on a different meaning.

Turning to God in Prayer and meditation can help in relaxing the mind.  A relaxed mind will make better decisions and won’t be driven by impulses.  Get a bible if you don’t have one and start reading it.  I tell people to focus on Proverbs…as this book is truly a biblical “Guide for Life” so to speak. You can begin to know the “Mind of God” as you read through the bible, and see how life situations are dealt with, especially in the New Testament.  The teachings of Christ are focused on “Forgiveness” and “Love”.  What better way to go through life.

Many of the members ask just how do they become a Christian and how do they accept Christ as their savior?  I refer them to the bible, namely the book of

 Romans; Chapter 10. Verse 9

If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

What does Lord mean? That he came here to this earth to rescue us from sin, and to die in our place on a cross. He experienced “this life”, a brutal life that beat him into the ground and hung him up on a cross. So he knows our pain when we are beaten down by life, and there seems to be no way out…Turn to him for help today…you might be c loser to a victory than you could have ever imagined.

Stay well and God bless…

 

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At The Root Of Addictions

Hello…and welcome from Christian Help For Addiction Online

We were discussing in the group the other night some of the reasons behind an addictive behavior, or just some of the reasons for using at all.

If you try to understand your behavior without confronting the underlying issues, you’re just changing chairs on a ship that is going down.  The ultimate question one must ask is exactly what does this behavior mean?

Do you know the reasoning behind why you are misusing and/or abusing substances?

Are you self-medicating,  as an attempt to mask the pain in your life?

How about your using is  a method of coping with difficult people and situations in your life?

Maybe you are searching for better feelings about yourself-and the substance creates those feelings.

How about a family history of addiction…are you following in the footsteps of parents or grand parents?

 Those are some of the “deep seated” issues that you have to address with your therapist once you begin intervention… What did I hear you say…you don’t have a therapist?  Well that should be your first method of intervention…getting a skilled therapist who can help and guide you through the process of recovery.

Once involved with a skilled therapist, you both could explore the “reasons’ behind your abuse and or misuse, and look at some more productive ways in how to deal and cope with the issues that are underlying the behavior.

Moreover, lets not forget Christ, and incorporating him into our treatment plan.

There are some who are or have been struggling with addictions who have been rejected by their families or friends.  Hearing things from family and friends that…”you’re no good….pull yourself together…..loser” etc etc….Those kind of comments can have a negative effect on how we feel, and sometimes trigger more use in an attempt to alleviate the pain.

Christ knows your pain, and is a forgiving God who allows for endless mistakes. It is such a relief to know that God forgives us for our mistakes, and loves us “unconditionally”  I reflect on the story from the bible where the so called “religious” leaders of the time brought a prostitute woman to Jesus, and confronted him on what her “punishment” should be.

In the olden times, prostitution and cheating was dealt with by stoning the woman to death, and the religious leaders were going to see if Christ would go against the sacred Jewish law. As the woman was brought be fore Jesus, he drew a circle in the sand around her and stated to the crowd…”let him who is without sin throw the first stone”

Fortunately, self-reflection ran high in those days, because the crowd left, knowing in their hearts that they had fell short in life as well…..Christ informed the woman that she was forgiven and go and sin no more….

So don’t get caught up in the thinking that the people around you are better then you….like the bible says…”all have sinned and fall short of the glory of god”  so if those self-righteous people start judging you….reflect back on this story of Jesus and the woman….and put yourself in her place…knowing you are forgiven.  Once the guilt leaves…you can move forward with your life in a healthier way….stay well and god bless…..

 

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Support System

Hi everyone, form Christian help For Addiction Online.  This week I would just like to stress how important support systems are, and if possible a Christian support system as well.

If you ask a dozen people who or what their “support systems” are, you just might get a dozen or so different answers.  I have heard people tell me everything from their immediate families, to friends, neighbors, pastors, counselors, and other spiritual sources (meditation, bible, nature) as well.

The key to your “support system” isn’t who or what it is, but the fact that it is there for you when then time comes, and it has your best interest at heart. If your support system is friends, family etc., make sure these are well “grounded” people, who are living a healthy lifestyle, and will provide healthy support and advice. When in doubt, turn to your bible for reference and guidance. The book of proverbs is a great place to start.

If you are looking for a more 24/7 “support system”, then look no further then Christ.  Having no specific time frames, and available 24/7, Christ can be a wonderful support system when you get to know him and his ways. How can we know him and his ways? By opening our bibles and researching deep into the word of God.  The life of Christ and his guidance is well documented in scriptures, and if you follow his guidance and direction, there’s a good chance that you will find many answers to life’s most difficult questions.

You can’t have enough “support systems” in your life, and putting Jesus on top of the list will be a step in the right direction.

We continually are praying for you and your family and we hope that your troubles are few.

 

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Tough Times and Our Focus

Hello everyone….and we pray  you are well….What or who do you focus on when the tough times come?  Sometimes, many of us are prone to dwelling on our problems day after day.  We get caught in a vicious cycle of hopelessness, while ruminating about past events.  Research has shown that this continuous dwelling on the negative can make us prone to depression and a host of other ailments.

Sometimes changing our thoughts from the negative to the positive can be an incredible challenge, as this ritual of “negativity” has become entrenched in our minds.  So is there a way to break this cycle? I believe there is, and it starts with God.

I was reading through the book of Jeremiah again, and that same old verse keeps coming back at me. It’s Jeremiah 29:11   “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”  When you truly invision yourself as a child and creation of almighty God, that gives us a renewed strength. Knowing I am God’s creation gives me a sense of spiritual power that can help me fight my battles, while at the same time leaning on him.

The bible (Psalms and Proverbs) gives wonderful instruction on how to cope and deal with life, and there is not enough room here for me to even begin.  Pick up an inexpensive bible and start reading….it could be the most important book you have ever read.

Here’s a great devotional from intouch.org   stay well…..

Paul did not picture himself as a victim. Despite tremendous physical discomfort and emotional turmoil, he believed he was under God’s sovereign hand. So instead of growing resentful and walking away from the faith, the apostle turned to the Lord and continued to mature spiritually.

We can learn much from Paul—He was determined to focus on God’s sovereignty rather than his own will. It’s easy to be bitter over the mayhem that another person has caused in our lives. However, the minute we start thinking that our enemies are in control, we’re defeated. The Bible says that God “has established His throne in the heavens, and His sovereignty rules over all” (Ps. 103:19). He is in absolute control. We may not understand His reasons for permitting hardship or pain in our lives, but His plan is always for our good and His glory (Jer. 29:11).

Moreover, believers can learn from Paul’s commitment to focus on positive results rather than on personal agony. Pain, whether in the body or the heart, often absorbs all of a person’s attention. But there is no victory to be had in dwelling on our hurts. God has a plan for that anguish, and Paul is a good example. He rejoiced when the gospel spread to the Praetorian Guard—his jailers.

Difficult circumstances are a crossroads in the believer’s life. If we take the path of blaming God for our strife, we’ll be dealing with resentment and negativity. But if we focus on our heavenly Father’s love and provision, we will find trust and hope as we seek to go His way.

 

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Birds Of A Feather..Flock Together

Hi everyone, and we pray that you are well….I’m sure you have heard that above saying of “birds of a feather flock together” which just in case you haven’t means…people with similar interests and character will often choose to spend time together. In other words…who are you hanging with and who are you attracted to?  And what if those so called “birds” that are drawing  you into their little flock turn out to be vultures in disguise?

So I know you have probably heard me say this before, but as the saying goes…”repetition reinforces retention and recall” so here it goes again…people, places and things. We truly do become a product of our environment, which includes those “birds” we hang around with.  Are your friends or acquaintances living a life that is filled with abusing and/or misusing alcohol or drugs?  If so run! Don’t feel that you have to be “strong enough” to put up with the temptation, and believe that you have to prove to them how strong you are. Forget it.  You don’t have to prove anything to anybody except God almighty. He is the only one of importance who will be judging you for the life you lived.

When we allow unhealthy people to frame our way of thinking, we get side tracked from the “big picture”. The big picture that God has put in front of you. Here’s one of my favorite versus…so try to put it to memory…

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity

Try finding some healthy and high functioning people that you can socialize with…I know it’s not easy…but if you look in the right places (church), you just might find some….Start flying with some Eagles and leave those buzzards behind…

Stay well and God Bless….

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Those Bad Thoughts Again

Hello from Christian Help For Addiction Online.  Again, mainly because we think it is so important, we will like to revisit how important it is to keep a check on our thoughts.  More and more research is indicating that our thoughts line up with how we feel. So in essence, if I am thinking despair, hopelessness, “what’s the sense”, type thinking, the way I feel is going to coincide with those thoughts.

Our minds are a powerful force, that left to run wild, can wreak havoc on the way we feel and function.  The lies we tell ourselves such as, “I am no good, I will never beat this thing, life stinks” will have a big impact on our well-being. Try changing your thought patterns this week. I know what many of you are saying, (easier said then done) but it’s a good habit that you have to get in t0.

Always remember that you are a creature of God, made by him in his likeness.  That means our thought patterns should line-up with those of God. What do you think God might think about? What a lousy day this is, or what a waste I am?  I sincerely doubt it. his thoughts most probably are focused around love, kindness, sacrificing and doing good unto others. Let’s see if we can get those same thoughts moving in our lives.

Here is another great devotional from intouch.org that is worth a read:

The best life you could possibly live is the one your Creator has designed for you. He has given believers everything they need to become more like Him and to achieve all He has planned for them. Since the way we think is vitally important in this process, the Lord has given us the mind of Christ. Now we have the capacity to think as He does and to see situations from His perspective.

This marvelous ability to align our thoughts with His is a gift that we receive from God at the moment of salvation. However, the practice of it is our responsibility. We all come to Christ with minds which are already “pre-programmed” to one degree or another. For example, a child who grows up hearing demeaning comments will probably incorporate them into his concept of who he is and what he can accomplish. Also, this world system is constantly attempting to fit us into its mold, and Satan tries to inject his lies into our thinking.

If we are to experience the abundant life the Lord wants us to have, old thoughts that do not agree with God’s Word must be replaced with truth. Then we need to screen the ideas that bombard us each day. As we cooperate with God in this ongoing process, our lives will be transformed.

Compare your thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs with biblical teachings. If they don’t match, reject those patterns of thinking, and fill your mind with corresponding truths from Scripture instead. Since the Lord has empowered believers to think right, let’s cultivate the mind of Christ within us.

Try changing your thoughts this week.  I know old habits are tough to break at times, but with Christ’s help, you can accomplish just about anything you put your mind on.  Stay well…

 

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Getting Sound Advice

Greetings all from Christian Help For Addiction Online…Today we would like to discuss where does one turn for help and/or advice in times of need….the most common response we hear is …”my friends of course”…but unfortunately some of those so called “friends” can come with baggage attached…

When asked how many friends one has….the common response is…”oh I have lots of friends”…but I’ll tell you what, when the going gets tough, when your money and health runs out, and when you are in despair at 3 o’clock in the morning…most of us will be lucky if we have 1 or 2 friends that will truly stick around….

If you are lucky enough to have one of those friends, then you are truly blessed.  Moreover, if those friends are of sound mind and sober AND have your best interests at heart…then you are blessed even more…

Another area where people fall into traps is that of “getting advice” … Be real careful here with whom you get advice from.  People love to give advice, but is it truly “healthy advice’ and better yet, is it coming from God?  Advice we get can be more detrimental than good, so make sure you filter it and make more sure that it lines up with the word of god from the bible.  People mean well, but sometimes they really don’t know your situation…

When in doubt, drop into your local church, or a church that somebody recommends. You just might hit it right and connect with somebody there who is supportive and spiritual and can offer you unconditional love regardless of your situation. Get yourself an easy to read bible and dig into the word of God…he just might be the best support you could ever find.

We are praying for your health and well-being.  Sometimes it seems like your break through will never come…but Christ sometimes come in the 23rd hour…stay strong and pray…you might be closer then you think…

 

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Addictive Personality?

Hi everyone…we hope you are well.   Can somebody be predisposed to addictions?  Apparently more and more research is indicating that some people have inherited traits that actually make them more susceptible.  Some of the more prevalent addictions are alcohol, pain killers, gambling and the ever increasing pornography. 

Whether it’s smoking cigarettes, or engaging in some form of obsessive behavior, the key is that “compulsion” to engage in that behavior over and over again.  At this point one must realize that it is more than a mere habit, but more of an “addiction”  A sign that you are becoming psychologically stronger and growing at the same time is having the ability to set limits on your behavior. If your habits appear to be taking over, and are influencing your everyday functioning, than it may be an addiction.

A group member was telling the group last week how he believed he had the so called “addictive personality” gene. Now I don’t know if that really exists, but research has indicated some hereditary factors in regards to addiction. The member explained that he pretty much “surrendered’ to the fact that he couldn’t break and/or change his personality disorder, so he channeled it into more positive behavior.

He explained how he started exercising again, and literally became a “gym rat” so to speak. Now here’s a guy that couldn’t walk a city block, but after years of conditioning was jogging miles a day!

The moral to the story….if you buy into this “addictive personality” theory, then perhaps channeling that behavior into more positive and less destructive actions might be the answer you have been looking for.  I wouldn’t just hit the streets and start jogging etc., without your doctors okay, but if you get the green light, then why not give it a try?

How about getting addicted to Christ and his beliefs and promises. Christ said that he came so that you might have life and have it more abundantly. He didn’t mean for you to be strung out and struggling with some habit that is tearing you and your loved ones apart.  Get addicted to reading the bible everyday. You will be surprised how some of the verses seem to be pertaining to you and your life.  I know it worked for me.

Enjoy the nice weather coming and continue to pray for your recovery. We shall be praying for you as well.

 

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